Relationship Dating - The Magic of Matchmaking

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Relationship Dating - The Magic of Matchmaking

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There are many reasons to date. You can date for fun, for entertainment, for companionship, for sex, or like a large majority of the people out there, to find a meaningful and fulfilling relationship. This honorable and annoying labour of love is what we have decided to call Simple-Relationship-Advice.com” href=”http://www.simple-relationship-advice.com/relationship-dating.html”>relationship dating.

Although we separated dating into various categories based on our motivations, don’t be fooled, they can all really be traced back to finding fulfillment and meaning in our interactions with another human being. Below I will give you some examples of what I mean:

So let’s date for fun!?

Dating for fun…or sex…is a search for meaning and fulfillment. Yes, you read correctly, let me elaborate. Dating is full of annoyance, dissatisfaction, anxiety, agression and subterfuge. For most of us this hardly sounds like much fun. There are some people out there though who find this “game” enthralling. For them it is synonymous with the X-Games! But… why is dating so exciting for them? The answer is validation. It is the same reason people go bungi jumping and love horror movies.

In this validation people find fulfillment and meaning…but I digress…

For the rest of us that find dating akin to a dentist visit, and in the spirit of simplicity which characterizes us, here are some key nuggets of wisdom which should help us gain perspective when we are thinking: “What the hell am I doing?!”

Don’t pretend: Some people feel that the only way to find your significant other is to join the club scene, go bar hopping and overindulge on martinis. If living that life is not YOU, then why sign on? Unless you want to find people who have little in common with you this seems a low success rate proposition.

Do more of what you like, be more of what you are. Share yourself. If you like cooking, join a cooking class, offer dinner parties for your friends and their acquaintances, give the restaurant chef unsolicited advice.

The idea is to find ways to both expand your circle of experience and at the same time do something you enjoy. At these moments you will be legitimately yourself, and you will be showing the best of you.

Look deep: Another thing that generally happens when dating is that we give the physical appearance of our dates incredibly high importance. Guys do this without question. Although it is less pronounced in women, it happens just the same.

Of course there must be some kind of chemistry for a relationship to work, but a lot of the time that initial gravitation is due to factors much more complex than just good looks. Like any other physical thing, good looks will fade.

People change, they could put on some weight, go bald, get flabby, loose their tan, just like you and me; they are real people in the day to day grind of life, not a polaroid picture. You want to look for other things which have a higher impact on the success of a long term relationship.

Perfect is just a word: One way in which we sometimes sabotage our own efforts is by giving that little thing that bothers us about our potential mate so much importance, that we kill the whole endeavor. No one is perfect, we all pass gas, we all get pimples, we all stink when sweaty, we all get cranky on occasion. So…look at the big picture.

Be there: To use a very common sports analogy, to win the game you have to play. If you go straight from work to home to sitting on the couch and watching the latest TV series to bed, and back to work again the next morning you are definitely less likely to meet someone…anyone!

Get yourself out there… take that last minute invite, actually pick up the phone and dial up that friend you said you would call three weeks ago…

Go and DO! If you get it wrong, dont worry; just forget about it and get out there DOING again…

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